The need to be unique and original is one of the dominant emotions for many. However, the truth is that it’s not actually about being “original,” which is just a subjective definition of what lies beneath that: the feeling of importance and striving for esteem in society; someone wouldn’t try to make a unique piece of art, and then throw it away before anyone could see it.
Yet, the even bigger truth, is that no one is really original, or at least not by the way society defines the word “original.”
Take for instance the artist you most admire, someone whom you are in awe of their ability to create or perform. Perhaps it’s Philip Glass and his minimalistic compositions, or maybe Michael Jordan and his unbelievable ability to win games; true originals.
Some people’s lives are solely driven by ambition, but for the majority it exists as a piece of the larger pie of life. Regardless, most would agree that obsessive ambition can in fact be harmful towards ones well being as well as for their friends and family. Case and point, the mad artist or scientist that drives themselves into the grave for their “work”.
Likewise, there’s a lot of value in being consistently aware of the ambitions that you have, particularly identifying the activities aimed at impressing others, and contrasting those with your goals that are purely PERSONAL ambitions, aimed at self fulfillment.
Knowing this allows us to re evaluate our “bucket lists”. For example, if literally every activity Bob Smith does is about impressing others, he might want to refocus his goals. Particularly, if he’s so obsessive about completing one of them, that it’s actually much more of a negative force than a positive one in his life.
Last week a news program was running a segment highlighting commencement speeches from various distinguished individuals from around the country, and one in particular caught my attention, where an English teacher started a speech by saying, “You are not special.”
Call me crazy, but compared to the other commencement speeches from the likes such as Oprah, who were spewing out (what I perceived as) delusional prophesies about exceptionalism and grandiose, I found this English teacher’s message by far the most enlightened and quite frankly honest.
If you give reality a cold hard stare in the face, you’ll recognize that death is as much a part of life as birth is. Suffering is just as much a part of life as happiness is. This idea is encompassed by the Yin-Yang:
Hands down, the largest cause of mental suffering is a delusional and very unnecessary notion, the notion that things ought to be the way you want them to be, the way you expect them to be.
Humans are experts at making distinctions and identifications because it makes life manageable. For example, below are two images, a nice looking watch and a broken one.
That’s right. Right now. Take It Easy.
It’s a wonderfully simple philosophy to help guide your life and state of wellbeing.
Really? An overused 70s hippy phrase?
Consistently remaining in a state of Mindfulness is as difficult as ALWAYS keeping your car clean or ALWAYS keeping your shoes spotless.
It’s a 24 hour job, but as discussed in the last post, it’s one of the most important and rewarding jobs in the world. The payoff is well worth the mental “expenditure.”
So how do we remain in a state of consistent Mindfulness?
is unquestionably one of the most pivotal and at the same time unknown concepts in our existence. It’s the golden key that hangs above each of our heads with the power to unlock and break us free from the chains imprisoning our consciousness’. But sadly so few of us ever notice it hanging there.
You are not your thoughts. You are not your emotions.
True? Or delusional sappy theory?
Well let’s see:
Have you ever done something out of anger which later you were disappointed about? Probably a few times, to differing degrees of severity.